I recently did an archetypal astrology session with the amazing Karen Hawkwood, and I can't stop thinking about something she told me. 

I don't know much about astrology, but according to my chart (and this lines up with my lived experience), she said I have a lot of push/pull within me.

And then she told me that this push/pull and the complexities and different parts in me do not need to be resolved. She said I am not a problem to be fixed!

As soon as she said this I felt my stomach expand and my shoulders relax. 

I've studied self-compassionate work for years, but as a life-long fixer and recovering perfectionist, I tend to forget. I need to be reminded. 

And somehow knowing that even my astrology chart had this message for me made it land in a new way. Ha!  

If you're also one of those people who experience a lot of complicated parts inside you or a lot of push/pull internally, I see you. And if you struggle with perfectionism or always "fixing," I see you, too. 

You are not a problem to be solved.

With care,
Brianna

P.S. By the way, all of this healing and learning is not about perpetual self-improvement. It's about taking conscious responsibility for my life (and my wounds) so that I can grow up and become a nourishing, stabilizing presence in the world. If you wanna do this kind of growing up, too, life coaching can help—sign up for a session!

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