it's true!

During the training I attended last week with Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estés (it was incredible!) she said something that really shifted an old belief for me. 

Many of the students were asking similar questions around how to heal these kinds of thoughts:
I feel like I'm too intense, too sensitive, etc
My presence doesn't matter (this is my old belief)
I'm not enough
and also I'm too much

And Dr. Estés noted the pattern of all these thoughts and then she said she wanted to share something important. She paused and cleared her throat and then she said:
It's true!

The room was silent and you could feel the shock and surprise coming from the students.

She continued
It's true. You are too intense...for some people. 
It's true. Your presence doesn't matter...to some people. 
Yep, it's true. You aren't enough...for some people. 
It's true. You're too much...for some people. 

And then she said
Those are not your people.
Leave.
And go toward those who have good will for you. 

Whew. It was so powerful and I keep thinking about the energetic shift when she said yep, it's true. 

I actually felt my shoulders drop with relief and I could feel a similar shift in the people sitting around me. 

I think so many of us have only ever tried to resist/change these kinds of thoughts and beliefs. We "fight" them with positive affirmations of you are enough! and replies about how that just isn't true, etc. 

But what a shift when we stop fighting (and gaslighting ourselves) and turn and say it's true! And honor the part that knows it's been true in the past for us around certain key people in our lives.

For me, my old belief softened. 

And then I loved her phrase of "go toward those who have good will for you."

To them, you are not too much.

What do you think? I'd love to hear. 

With care,
Brianna

Photo by Aziz Acharki